I’m Not Your Average Blogger

This is a post I’ve been meaning to write for a long time. The title makes me seem very pretentious but I promise it’s not along those lines. It’s more to do with my background, my life and why this little blog I started back in 2012 has pretty much changed my life and career.

There is a huge stigma around blogging and in particular bloggers. It seems that a lot of people assume that a female blogger comes from a middle class background, shops in Waitrose and lives of her Mummy and Daddy or Husbands money. Of course those are huge generalisations and with everything like this, some people are and some people aren’t. My point however, is that blogging has become my job and with any job you have to put in the hard work to make it successful.

I don’t come from a privileged background and when I was nominated for a couple of awards this year and people were complaining about the lack of diversity, that all of the bloggers come from a privileged middle class background, they just assumed they knew about me. That they knew my background. They don’t.


When I started this blog back in 2012, I didn’t even know it was possible to make any money from your blog, let alone people making careers from it. I blogged for fun, originally, I blogged to show off my charity shop outfits and to prove that you didn’t have to have lots of money to look nice.

It all comes from my background. Growing up we didn’t have much money at all. My mum would sacrifice things for herself so we didn’t go without. She walked around with holes in her shoes just so we had school uniform and come Christmas we would have that one present we asked for.

My background is humble and I’ve always been taught that if you want something you need to work for it. You won’t just be handed things on a plate. And that’s what I have done. I’ve worked ever since I was 16 and earning my own money is hugely important to me.

When my husband was training to be a teacher I was the breadwinner. I brought home the most money, I treated us to nice things and it was an amazing feeling to have money in my bank account that I had worked hard for. Things are different now, my husband of course brings in more and my priority is Edith but that doesn’t mean for a second that I’m happy to take a back seat and not work.

Oh no as soon as my years maternity leave finished I ramped things up with my blog and photography business and when I filled my first tax return this year I can’t even begin to explain the pride I felt that I had earned that money off my own back. From something I have created myself.


I still work countless hours on my blog, writing, photography and I contribute to the bills and I always will. I’m definitely not knocking or judging anyone that lives up to the “blogger cliche” , your life is your life and your circumstances are completely different to mine but I just wanted to explain my thoughts.

I guess what I’m trying to say is next time someone criticises bloggers from coming from a position of privilege, that Mummy and Daddy have paid for everything or they live of their partner. Just check to make sure you know their background first.

I have poured so much hard work into my blog and photography and for it to be belittled is really harsh. For people to think that I just get sent free things, or that blogging is easy have clearly never attempted it. I work more hours than I would than if I went back to my old job, I sacrifice my evenings to work and I have this “If I don’t work hard or put the effort in, we don’t get to pay our bills this month”. It certainly isn’t easy and it’s not handed to me on a plate at all.

This has turned into a huge ramble but I’m hoping you can understand my point. Don’t judge others on your misconceptions, you don’t know where they have worked up from and let them feel proud of their achievements, because after all the hard work it’s nice to get a little bit of recognition.


  1. Emma

    Love this post. And you are so right, blogging is hard and we put so much time and effort into it. When people refer to the things we are sent as freebies it really winds me up! I’m not from a privileged background either, we didn’t have much money growing up and we still don’t now. We are just a very normal working class family x

  2. Helen

    It’s so true that not everyone knows everything about our lives – we share what we want to share. Sometimes I think that can come across a certain way or that you have a certain life, when it is simply not the case. Your story is very inspiring and your hard work has clearly paid off, as your blog/Instagram are so beautiful 🙂

  3. London Mumma

    A very nice eye opening and inspiring post. Yes some people do feel there is a stigma, but that is what brands portary. Your readers and followers know who you really are as well as your family and friends and that is all that matters lovey. You are doing an amazing job.

  4. Rhian Westbury

    I totally agree with this. I have had a job ever since I was 16 and all throughout university too just so I could save for a deposit on a property and to ensure I wasn’t left without money. I’ve always been brought up to appreciate and work hard for things x

  5. Toni | This Mama

    Such a fab post. I’ve read too many times on social media that the ‘popular’ blogs are only popular because they have an other half that can support them financially. It drives me crazy! The judgement behind bloggers can be unreal, I’m glad you added your point into it as you’re in just the same position as my hubby & I and my blog (except without the award nomination!) x

  6. Sophie's Nursery

    Couldn’t agree more! Worked since I was 16, a full time teacher for 10 years & now full time blogging whilst caring for my daughter & new baby when he arrives! Drives me mad to think people would assume we live off other peoples’ money 🙁 x

  7. Elizabeth

    I had no idea folk thought bloggers came from a life of privilege! I am not your average blogger either. I write mine from a council house with a falling apart kitchen and I come from a single parent poor background. Yea, not a life of privilege at all!

  8. Chloe Ciliberto

    It’s so nice to hear a little bit more about you. I can so relate to this post in so many ways! It’s amazing what perceptions people instantly make of you from reading your blog or seeing your pictures. I don’t want to share everything, I tend to only share the nice things, but I have had a huge variety of comments since I’ve been blogging from people saying that they think we’re all as rich as zoella, then some that say I must live off my partner and even some nasty ones saying I should ‘get a real job’.

    One person commented on my blog once being so nasty because I’d gone travelling for a month around Europe and I should donate some of my apparent wealth. What I failed to mention in my beautiful blog posts about our lovely family trip though was that ever night when I put my daughter to bed on our trip, I actually stayed up till 2-3am working on freelance jobs so I could afford for us to be there.

    I came from such a poor family and growing up never ever went on holiday. I was so proud to step on that little plane with my family, knowing that me grinding as a freelancer and blogger had put us there.

    I hope you are proud of what you’ve achieved and keep going at it! 🙂 I’m glad you’ve set the record straight, I don’t think many people know how hard you have to work on blogs and as a freelancer, in order to see the next pay check AND get to do something you love. x

  9. Jo - Pickle & Poppet

    It makes me feel sad that people think this, I had no idea. All the blogs I read either work and earn livings from their blog or work and job and blog. Even if they didn’t does it matter? The world has become so judgemental.

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