A wedding is many things. It is, first and foremost, a chance for two people to cement their love officially. It is an opportunity for friends and family to be witness to the partnership. It is, of course, also a social occasion where people who may never have met have a chance to meet. People who have not been in contact for years, even decades, can strike up old friendships. In short, a wedding is a celebration.
All of the good things that a wedding is need to be in your mind when you plan one. At some point, probably many points, during the planning you will be frustrated. You will raise your eyes to the sky and wonder why you don't just elope. Get it out of the way. It's got to be better than going through this complicated, tiring string of battles, right? So why, in the name of all that is good, would people complicate it further by adding a theme to a wedding?
In Defence Of Themed Weddings
A lot of people are down on themed weddings, and it's understandable that they are. You can hear the objections now. "You're in love. That's your theme!". "You're just making more work for yourself!". "A Minion theme? What are you, nine years old?". And to be fair, the last one at least may have a point.
However, the question you need to ask yourself is a simple one. Do you WANT a themed wedding? If you do, then that is really the only question that needs answering. If it is what you want, and you're both agreed on it, then you should go ahead. Why? Well, above any other reason, your wedding should be about you. It should reflect you as a couple. And if a themed wedding is special to you, then that's what it will do.
Maybe you're both passionate about sport and want a wedding that has a touch of that sport. You can colour code it for your favourite teams, or hold it on a ski resort. Maybe you're both keen on travel and want either a destination wedding or one that references your favourite country. Or maybe you both really like Minions. Yep, even then, go ahead and do what makes you both happy.
Is A Themed Wedding Harder To Plan?
There are so many things to get right about a wedding - any wedding. Unless you plan to elope then there is lots of planning needed. So people could reasonably say that you're making it more complicated by adding a theme. But they may not have it the right way around. A theme is one more thing to consider - but does it make a lot of other things easier?
When you have your theme, it can make a lot of other things fall into place. With or without a theme, you have to think about outfits, venue, food and any number of other factors. With a theme, you at least have guidance and inspiration for those choices. Spanish-themed wedding? Well, that helps with the outfits for a start. You may have decisions to make on the venue - go to Spain or bring Spain to you? - but the food is sorted too.
There is no point in creating unreasonable expectations - it's a wedding and there is still going to be planning to do. You don't just download an entire wedding and install it on the day. But you can find that things take on their own direction very quickly if you get it right.
Will Your Theme Work For Everyone?
Of course, you may find that there are skeptics about the whole idea of a themed wedding. There will be others who are fine with the idea, but not your idea. It would be nicer if they'd give it their full approval and get involved with making it a perfect occasion.
Whether they do or not, though, your wishes are what's most important. Look them in the eye, hand them the luxury wedding stationery and ask. "Are you going to keep finding fault, or are you going to help me with the invites?"
Now, none of this is to try and convince people who are against the idea of themed weddings to have one. If, indeed, the one theme of your wedding is that you love each other, that's great too. That is the most important thing. But don't be put off the idea because it seems like it would be complicated. You may find it surprising how simple it can be.