Friday, July 29, 2016

[Birth Story Series] Lynn's Stories (My Mum) Part 3

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Happy Friday! Time for another birth story. This series is going really well and I hope that people are enjoying it. Everyone I've spoken to who has written their story said it was really empowering. I'm always looking for people to contribute. Email me if you or someone you know might be interested.

The third and final story from my mum and it's mine.

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Baby number 4 was supposed to arrive on the 16/02/93. My Mum wanted a Valentine’s Day baby, I just wanted my baby as soon as possible. This had been my worst pregnancy. I had been sick all the way through, I had to have a glucose test in case I had pregnancy diabetes, I didn’t they were just big babies. I was anaemic due to a mix up between the G.P and hospital concerning iron tablets and I had three other children. I had terrible back ache and had to have several scans because at one point baby was transverse, so was laying across my tummy.  I was laying threatened with a c section, they tried to turn baby but that didn’t work. However, at the last minute baby turned. Hurray, or so I thought, little did I know. By now they could tell if baby was a boy or girl, but I elected not to know as I had not known with the older three children. I think my husband would have liked to have known, but hey it was me having this baby so it’s MY decision. I did have a suspicion that baby was a girl though because the lady doing the scan said “I expect your little girl would like a sister wouldn’t she?”
I woke at about 5AM on the morning of the 9th of February with sharp pains. Oh good I thought here by lunch time, home by tea time because I was booked in for 6 hours and my previous labours had been quick. By 8 o’clock the contractions had slowed. A neighbour had said she would take the 2 older children to school and would meet them and look after them if needed, leaving me with a 3 year old. My husband then decided that he was going to work!!!! As things had slower down. Don’t forget we didn’t have mobile phones then. “What!” I said, “You can’t leave me here with a toddler.” “Oh it’s ok.” He said “Your mum and sister are on their way.”
My lovely mum and sister turned up on their bikes. Mum stayed until 3pm and then went home to prepare the beds for her 3 grandchildren. My sister stayed until 5pm when my husband returned home. I told him we needed to go to the hospital. I phoned and was told to come in. We collected the 2 older children from the neighbour and together with the toddler dropped them off at Mum’s and made for the hospital. It was now about 6:30pm and 1 was still expecting to have baby fairly quickly once I got there. Ha ha, no such luck. I was by now in agony.

This was certainly the most painful birth, so they gave me the gas and air and were quite shocked that I didn’t know how to use it. I had not needed it with the others. Then they took it away from me as I was getting too high on it. I remember feeling very annoyed about that. My baby was not making very good progress along the birth canal, but was not distressed so they decided to leave her alone, but for some reason she seemed stuck. The midwife looked and said she is facing the wrong way, looking up instead of down. It was now 9pm and my midwife should have gone home, but he said she was staying until this baby made an appearance. They told me that because this way my fourth child everything down there was stretched (charming) and that would help.


At 9:59, with no forceps or intervention, a baby girl arrived. They had told me she would not be large like her brother. Well they were right she wasn’t so big. Only 10lb 6oz! We hadn’t decided on her name so for 3 days she was just baby Daws until the nurses pleaded with me to give her a name. We decided on Cathryn Laura. My Dad had passed away during my pregnancy and Laura had been his Mum’s (My Nanny’s) name. It was also my Husbands Nanny’s name so it pleased both families. My husband wanted to go and phone the Mum’s with the news of the birth but they made him stay because I needed a bath and they didn’t have enough staff to stay with me. In those days if a baby was born at night they kept it in the nursery so as not to disturb the other mums on the ward.
About 3am they came and told me by baby was being transferred to S.C.B.U (Special Care Baby Unit) because she was having difficulty breathing, but not too worry. Of course I did. In the morning when the babies came through from the nursery, mine didn’t. The nurses said she was ok and would be on the ward shortly. Still no baby. Eventually they let me got to S.C.B.U to see her. I was told that she had a stridor in her throat which vibrated when she had a bottle, it made an awful noise. They didn’t know if the breathing problems were caused by the fact she didn’t realise she had to take breaths every now and again while feeding or because she had so many rolls of fat on her neck that she couldn’t support her head when feeding.


We were told that Cathryn might have to be transferred to a bigger, more specialised hospital if she didn’t improve. After 3 days I made the difficult decision to go home leaving Cathryn behind. I had 3 children at home who were upset and being looked after by my Mum and sister. They needed me too.

But the drama didn’t end there. Oh no! One night at 10pm after we visited Cathryn. I had bad tummy pains and increased blood loss. My mum who had been babysitting said to phone the emergency doctor, who wasn’t very helpful and told me to wait and see the midwife. Mum said keep any large clots to show the midwife (yuck) because she thought it was bits of the placenta. She was right, it was. The midwife said that it was ok because the pans and bleeding had stopped.


Luckily after 3 days we were allowed to bring Cathryn home. She had learnt to feed and breath and the stridor disappeared after a few months. As we left the S.C.B.U I thought this is it. No more babies. I can’t do this again and I’m not coming back. I didn’t until 22 years later at the birth of Cathryn’s daughter Edith.

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Wednesday, July 27, 2016

[Baby] Edith's 10 Month Update

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10 months. How? Birthday plans are well and truly underway. This month, like most months, has been up and down. She's been really lovely and happy until the last week. Teething and hot weather ruins everything. As well as throwing up all over herself, the buggy, the Connecta and me. The past week has been a tough one. But yay for the holidays and yay for Daddy being off for 6 weeks!

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Sleep


I think we have accepted that 3 times a night is the least we are going to get. This month sleep has been pretty consistent waking at 11pm, 1am and 3am. When we went for Edith's check the health visitor, who this time was incredibly lovely, said as a long as we are happy with her waking at these times for a short feed then carry on until we want to stop. When we do want to stop she suggested offering a sippy cup of water instead to hopefully break the link with comfort and feeding.


The past week however sleep has been a tricky one. Two nights she woke every 45 minutes to and hour. We are now getting back into 3 times. Teething really upsets her.

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Feeding

No changes really other than with teething. She's had less food more milk. Milk for comfort and to top up as she's not a fan of chewing. I purchased a couple of jars of food as she would not eat anything hard. As soon as I got them she's been back to normal.

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Size

Edith has put on 2lb since the 1st of June. The health visitor we saw this time said she's absolutely fine and as soon as she's moving her chub rolls will disappear (noooooo!!!) but in all seriousness she's doing well and is still of the chart! Still in 4+ nappies and in 9-12 clothes. We also had her height done. Edith's 73cm which puts her on the 98th percentile. We knew she was a tall girl.

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Milestones


Rolling over (at last!)


Pointing to things (in books and in general) and people

Standing with help.

Saying Mum (not very often though)

Finding hidden objects. (A toy placed under a muslin)

Repeating sounds (copying the tsssst of fly spray)

Had her 9-12 month check.

Really developing her sense of humour. She's such a character.

Letting you read books to her.

Joining in a game we play, placing our hands on top of each others hands.

The 3rd tooth! Not a top one like we expected but right of her two bottom teeth.

Starting "row row row the boat". She sits and rocks. It's the cutest thing.


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Edith Loves


Books

Twirlywoos (these are her life right now)

Baths

Spoons

Water - spitting it out of her mouth.

Taking her summer hat off.

Taking her socks off.


Edith Hates

Teething

Putting her arms into tops.

Really hot weather.

Being sick.


Happy 10 months baby girl!

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Monday, July 25, 2016

[Food] Weekly Meal Plan #3

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It's Monday and time for a weekly meal plan. I didn't post one last week as I saved last weeks for this week. We are on honeymoon this week (to a beautiful little log cabin, don't worry Edith's coming too) so we will be eating out a lot or having quick and easy meals (maybe even ready meals(!) shock horror.) It's a break for us so we don't want to be slaving over a oven.

The last meal plan I posted didn't go so well. That week we had takeaway twice. My husband is a bad influence and I have no willpower when it comes to takeaway. We did a lot better last week. Our BBQ plans for the Friday got cancelled so we popped to Morrisions to pick up their pizzas as a bit of a treat instead. This weeks shop came to £23 as we had a lot of meat in the freezer. I did however have to top up the shop with some chicken burgers for £1.50 as we were a little greedy Monday night.


Monday 

Vegetable stir fry, sweet chilli sauce, egg noodles and battered fish on top. (Sounds odd, don't knock it until you've tried it!)

Tuesday
Chicken burgers, salad, sweet chilli sauce with homemade sweet potato fries.


Wednesday

Slow cooker lasange with mushrooms and peppers.


Thursday

"Nacho" wraps. (All the flavour of nachos without nachos, my husband is fussy)

Friday
BBQ - cancelled
Chicken & bacon pizza for me.
Spicy beef, chorizo, bacon and jalapenos for the husband.


Diary of an imperfect mum
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